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I know, I know… it has been a long time since I last wrote a blogpost---- so here goes.

I just back from maybe one of the best weekends of my life and I am off again today!  This past weekend, our program gave us a small holiday ( a three day weekend- I took 4), and I quickly quickly bought tickets so as to leave Banaras.  Where?  DELHI.

Many people in our program find little interest in Delhi, they see it as a corrupt, dusty,  sprawling, mess.  Which it is, but on my first visit I knew I would and needed to return.  Something about cities just really draws me in—the energy, the vibrancy, the amount of people, the feeling of great potential.  Banaras at 2 million people, is definitely not a city—it has the problems of an India cities, but in many ways is a large town.  Delhi is a city- and while it may not be Mexico City, Mumbai, or New York there is a lot to do!

SOoooOoOoOO-  I was invited to a wedding by my friend Emma, her Punjabi coworker was getting married.  Emma currently is doing an internship with EdTerra (more later)  living in South Delhi with a group of interns at various companies from various countries (Brasil, Italy, Moldova, Britan, Holland etc)  currently 8 people live in her apartment! 

The wedding was amazing, well amazing may not be the word—but the food was surely amazing.  I wore my finest silk kurta and pajam (newly tailored and looking fresh, aside from the saag paneer stain it received during the course of the evening)

Biryani, Naaan, Shai Paneer, Kulfi, Jalebis, soups, naans, chole—and while these may not mean anything to, and while it may all have been veg., it was hands down amazing.  I stuffed myself beyond stuffing, I felt like I was going to explode, die, vomit—but all well worth it.

I also learned an interesting tid bit- anybody can go to anybodies wedding, especially as a foreigner.  All you need is to be looking fresh and show up with a gift, no one will question you and you will be welcomed with open arms!  So put that in your back pockets.

I may be attending a Muslim Wedding in November (fingers crossed!) and at huge (1000 guests) wedding in Delhi in December!  It is nice to attend weddings and not be the catering staff there.

The next day Emma and I woke up late and just relaxed, we relaxed for a few hours eating organic porridge and listening to music.  It is really great to reconnect with her, we really have a great dynamic.  Later, after shopping, we met my friend Kash ( A real Delhi-ite) to see his friend perform in a play— Hands down the worst play EVER, ever.  I need to see a good play, I am really getting turned off by theatre.  After the play we went to a BAR, yes a BAR with Kash and his friends. We ate Mutton, yes Mutton.  We bought FISH SAUCE and CHEESE (gouda, parmesan, mozzarella), yes FISH SAUCE and CHEESE (gouda, parmesan, mozzarella).  All of this and more from one of Asia’s most expensive retail destinations: Khan Market.  A Market filled with foreign groceries, book stores, clothing stores, restaurants etc etc etc.  We had a great time and met really great people (it really felt like being back home, or better a really posh place in New York or Europue!)  After that we went to a PARTY, yes a PARTY.  We drank ALCOHOL, yes ALCOHOL.  We got home at 4 am, yes 4 am.  I was ecstatic.

BUT HANDS DOWN THE BEST PART OF THE WEEKEND:  on Sunday we went to Kash’s sister’s house in Gurgaon ( an extremely rich enclave South of Delhi—Guragoan a complex of mansions, Asia’s largest Mall, sky rises, and SUVs— it is both repulsive and decadent, but so appealing) 

This house, his sister’s second home, her Delhi home, is filled with the latest in Siemen’s appliances, glass fronted Malibu-like, decked out with a pool ( A POOL) a sauna, a stema bath, a movie theatre, and a hrassy garden terrace.  It was unbelievable.  And mind you this is her and her husband’s second home, the other in Punjab is five times bigger.  We swam, we swam, we swam.  Oh how wonderful.  It was bizarre and amazing.

But oh ho ho ho how the mighty fall. And they fall hard.  Leaving on Monday I boared the wrong train bound to Varanasi, and while I was able to get home in time for class, I had no reserved berth.  For a few hours before, arriving in Moradabad, I was contently reading in an open berth, however with an influx people, I was promptly expelled and left to fend for myself at midnight, as a ticketless passenger on a full train.  I roamed the corriders looking for empty beds, alas.  In the end, degraded and defeated, I was forced to curl up, on a sheet, outside of the bathroom, on the ground, my head on my suitcase.  It is an experience I hope to avoid at all costs.  But by Lucknow, when people left I got a berth.  It must have looked all very funny a white boy, kurta’d and pajama’d curled up outside the bathroom sleeping much like the poor Indian’s around me.

OKAY and now for the very exciting news, news which I have only known about for two days! 

At the wedding I met the owner of Emma’s company, EdTerra, and we got along famously.  While chatting he insisted I join them on one of their company trips, and while he was adamant, I was unsure how genuine the extension was. Well…. Well before that let me fill you in.

EdTerra is a company which designs educational tours for Indian students.  These tours are met to complement the curriculum offered at their home schools (Woodstock School Mussoorie International School, and other private wealthy schools)  So they offer tours from weekend excursions to Rajasthan all the way to 10- 15 package tours in Bangkok, China, Nairobi, etc. 

So I get a frantic facebook message from Emma saying I need to call her.  I do and I am greeted with, “They want to send you to Goa!”  I was floored.  Goa, the former Portuguese colony, now Indian beach paradise.  I am leaving back to Delhi (having been back in Banaras for 2 days) to fly out to Goa for 10 days to lead an educational tour for 100 11^th grade girls from the Mussoorie International School.  I am very very very excited and extremely lucky!  And all expenses are paid!  WOW 

Cycle

The funniest thing happened the other day.  A group of us decided to go out to dinner on Thursday to this really hip Euro restaurant I stumbled upon on one of my walks.  It was tucked away on a side alley that opened up onto a quiet ghat.  You walk upstairs to a restaurant that could be in Ibiza, capri, or Mykanos.  It was very surprising and very hip.  The food: pumpkin raviolis and sage butter sauces, Thai curries, Caprese salads-- all very unexpected and the waits all very cute.  It was like being at home.
So we decied to go out for the night and we would all dress up in our finest Indian attire.  I wore a dhotis, kurtas, salwaar kameez and saris.  As we were leaving the house another girl turned up, resplendent in her new sari.
She, without a bike, had to sit on the back of mine, while I carted her down the street.  What made this funny was not the ensuing balancing act and simultaneous  navigation between life and death.  But the fact that a tall (lumbu) white boy (gora) in a white dhoti and kurta, was carting around (in true Indian style) a woman in a sari, except this time the woman was a 20 year old blond from Amherst in a pink and green sari.  We received a lot of attention.  Banaras is now my home fo sho

Nya Makan (New House)

I have moved.  I have moved to a wonderful new home.  A home.  My first place where I actually feel at home, of course excluding my Rockford home.
It happened by chance that I saw a sheet detailing a room for rent and I inquired about possible other rooms and this place revealed itself to me!

Before yesterday I was living in an extremley comfortable middle class home with courtyard (soon to be paved in marble) with a housekeeper and a maid.  I had a clean and large room.  I had peace and quiet.  I had a wonderful kitchen.  I had filtered water

Today I live in a third floor walk up.  I have the space for a kitchen but no utensils, stove, gas, nor food.  I share a bathroom with four other people.  I am woken up by the clang of temple bells at 7 in the morning.  My room is small and dingy, but clean.

Why would I do this, you may ask (the thought has yet to cross my mind-- this place is to perfect).  The courtyard house, while beautiful, cut me off to India.  Daily I would forget I was India.  I was in a bubble and if I continued to stay there I would never see Varanasi as my home.  I felt like a guest (the Indian term is Paying Guest) and I felt like the space was never mine.

This new house is immediately on the ghat, the river flows right past the house and I am literally fifteen seconds from the stairs leading to the Ganga.  The house is ringed in by temples and is in the middle of a tangled artery of lanes.  I have left the periphery, the comfort of my bubble, for this wonderful new experience.  This switch is not some type of ironic slumming, or some romantic fantastic foray into poverty.  No instead it is an attempt to integrate my self more fully into my Indian life, to never forget I am in India, and to really try something new and different.  But of course it is all very romantic.

I feel so much at home.  Banaras is my home in a way no city has ever been (well maybe Abensberg and Rockford)

Home Sweet Home

SO, so , so… back from Mussorie!  For two weeks I have dreaded coming back to Banaras- the heat, the crowds, the sounds really are overwhelming- however I am extremely happy to finally be home.  It is not the greatest living in a hotel room for two weeks with another person.  It is nice to be back in my room.  I am starting a photbucket account (so pictures can be seen).

Mussorie was so amazing and wonderful respite from the plains.  It as I have said before was cold and foggy.  Cloud cover and rain could descend at any moment, and somedays we were all stuck for hours in the hotel waiting for the freezing rain to pass. 

My Hindi has become perceptibly better and everyday I learn more.  I am amazed by the amount I can understand now!  It took me three months to get this far in German—I am so excited come April when I am really confident with my Hindi (practice practice practice).

What was great about Mussoorie was to be surrounded by people and to always have company- our group really began forming a great dynamic.  We bonded over our shared intense sexual frustration, our Hindi, our interest in India, our love of sweets chai momos samosas and Kasmiri embroidery.  What to was great about Mussoorie was our everyday interactions with locals, how two weeks there we recognized shop keepers and people on the street.  I loved how routine and relaxed our lives became in Mussoorie.  I too loved the beauty of the place—the stunning mountain views, the sunlight, the crisp air, the fog.  I loved how green and how blue the place was- a stark difference from the brown, red , and yellows of Banaras.

To reach home it required a 32 hour train ride.  The normal 24 hour ride was extended due to the spectral fear of riot in Lucknow and other Uttar Pradeshi cities regarding the Ayodhya Court decision

(Several years ago in the early nineties (?) Hindu fundamentalist razed a Mughali Mosque The Babri masjid claiming the mosque stood upon and desecrated the birthplace of the Lord Ram- a Hindu deity and avatar of the god Vishnu.  The destruction of the Babri Masjid sparked intense communal violence much of it directed against Muslims in Muslim ghettos in big cities -Mumbai, Lucknow, Delhi- by Hindu fundamentalist groups under the auspices of the Shiv Sena and political party of the BJP- a right wing conservative group espousing a HINDU INDIA. Now the case has come to trial about which religion the space belongs to.  And the verdict came out the day of train trip home—thus the delay.  We were safe no fears and the judgment very fair).